How To Be Alone

18 Aug

Saw this video floating around on the internets.

I love it.

For most of my life, I have required, no I have commanded, that I am with people at all times. I was never comfortable being alone. I was the child that would sneak out of the house to go play with my friends at six years old (Carter has repeated this very thing recently) and to be alone was akin to death in my world.

Being a divorced woman and single mother, I was forced to be alone for a time.  It was hard. I hated almost every minute of it. But guess what? It was healing.

Years later, I find myself willingly, longingly even, looking for these quiet moments of peace. I look forward to every moment spent alone; whether it be reading a book in the park or driving home from work in the car.

I finally have embraced me. I no longer look for validation in that of others company or companionship. And when people do show up in my life, I invite them in knowing that if I was fearful of being alone, they may have never showed up anyway.

Lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.


3 Responses to “How To Be Alone”

  1. Nina August 18, 2011 at 8:14 pm #

    Amazing video, so beautiful and touching, so simple and creative. Thank you

  2. Christine Bowman (@girlgoesboom) August 22, 2011 at 3:53 pm #

    Alone is not the same as lonely. I’m happy that you’re happy!


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